The 'I should be back by now' trap
and the way out
Sis, if you're carrying the "I should be back by now" voice — this episode is for you.
You're 6 months postpartum. 10 months. 14 months. 18 months. And the voice in your head won't stop. "I should be back by now. I should have closed the gap by now. I should fit those jeans by now. My friend bounced back by now."
Sis, that voice is not telling you the truth about your body. It's telling you the lies of an industry, a culture, and a medical system that were never built for a Muslim mum.
This week's episode names the voice for what it is, a trap and gives you the way out.
Inside
we walk through the three layers of the "I should be back by now" trap and the three-step way out she's used with hundreds of Muslim mums to break the loop.
What you'll learn:
Why up to 30% of postpartum women never have their diastasis close on its own and why that means you are not behind, you are inside a statistic nobody is talking to you about
Where the "I should be back by now" voice actually comes from (the bounce-back narrative, the comparison machine, and the broken six-week timeline you inherited)
Why your body cannot recover in a state of shame and how the cortisol of self-criticism keeps the gap open, the fat there, and the pelvic floor weak
The three-step way out: name the lie, drop the timeline, choose the deep core work that actually rebuilds the body
The tawakkul-led reframe that replaces the deadline you've been carrying
The last question revisited, the one act of permission to give yourself this week
This episode is for the Muslim mum who's 6 to 24 months postpartum and ready to stop fighting her body. Sit with this one, sis. Take notes. Come back to it.
If this episode landed, share it with a sister who needs to hear it, sis. The work compounds. The dua matters. Bismillah.
NEXT STEPS
1. Free Postpartum Recovery Reset PDF — the 4-week protocol I built around exactly this work. DM RESET on Instagram @fitsters._ or send me an email at glow@fitsters.co
2.Join the Glow & Grow Mama cohort waitlist. 8-week postpartum cohort opening Tuesday 3 June 2026. Limited to 15 seats. Faith-led, salah-anchored, built for Muslim mums in the first 24 months postpartum. → DM MAMA to @fitsters._ to get on the list or send me an email at glow@fitsters.co
3. Book a free 1:1 discovery call. For mums who want personalised, intensive coaching. → Book directly via Calendly
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